@-`---- Love is like a roller coaster:when it's good you don't want to
get off, and when it isn't...you can't wait to throw up.
Have a good weekend, despite those damn rampant cherubs.
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"F@$& Valentines Day"
Hearts and roses and kisses galore...
What the hell is all that sh*t for?
People get mushy and start acting queer
It is definitely the most annoying day of the year
This day needs to get the hell over with and pass
Before i shove a dozen roses up Cupid's *ss
I'll spend the day so drunk I can't speak
And wear all black for the rest of the week
Guys act all sweet, but it soon will fade
For all they are doing is trying to get laid
The arrow Cupid shot at me must not have hit
Because I think love is a crock of sh*t
So heres my story...what else can I say?
Love bites my ass...F@$& Valentines Day!
Date: Tue, 4 Aug 1998 01:51:17 EDT Subject: L.I.E. Tonight I was walking around to try and see a few shooting stars. I have always been a loner type, any kind of relationships I EVER attempted have been undescribably awful. One time, when askedif I'd ever fallen in love, I told all of my friends yes, and I hope it NEVER EVER happens again. I think you made a lot of good points on your page. Valentines Day is a anchor for capitalism, to keep card companies afloat. But as I was walking tonight, I was thinking about happiness. I would have to disagree with you that happiness can be found in ones self. I have never made myself happy. Other people make me happy occasionally. Sure, I'd like a good fuck as much as the next guy, but it's just not even fun anymore. So, I've decided to learn more about myself by backpacking throughout Europe. Strange psychology it is, but let me explain. What better way to learn about myself than going to a completely diffrent culture with no one I know to force me to emerge? And there is a special someone that I hope will still be here when I come back. tell me what you think, I like to look at things from all angles ~Looseclothes Prophet: The Prophet of Dreams
From: tariq Subject: Date: Sun, 16 Aug 1998 02:38:03 +0300 I think your page is the most absolutely meaningful thing on the web........ Good work....
Subject: valentines day
Date: Tue, 25 Aug 1998 15:37:12 -0700
From: Marjorie Peck
Love your page.
From:"Al Smith" Subject: your anti-Valentines page Content-Type: text/plain Date: Fri, 11 Sep 1998 21:42:54 PDT Just read your page and I want to thank you for putting it on the Net. I feel exactly the same about Valentines Day, and romantic love in general. I am sick of feeling subhuman because I am not involved with anyone. Your page made alot of sense; it made me feel that at least ONE other person understands. Thankyou for your effort! I shall indeed get pissed on V.D. (it even reads as a disease when abbreviated) ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com
From: "Carlton Hwa" 10/27/98 12:22 AM Subject: great page finally someone telling it like it this hmmm...ECU? Are you from NC? I'm in Raleigh, trying to learn something @ NC State. Anyway, I added a link to your page on my links page stop by sometime and take a look or not, I don't care. http://nuteknet.com/~junior/
Date: Fri, 8 Jan 1999 22:03:19
-0800 (PST)
From: belladova@
Subject: Re: Anti-Valentines
I enjoyed your page, it has alot of the same ideas and concepts I believe in. I have a page very similar to yours. It's The Vampire's Day Holiday. Sort of an Anti-V-day page. Has the same beliefs of yours as into wearing black on that day. Check it out...
http://www.geocities.com/~vampireanneke/vampire/vampireday.html
Anneke
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Subject: Great Anti-Valentine's
Day Page! Hey I fully agree with your
ideas on romantic love and Valentine's Day especially. To put it bluntly, I
think it all sucks. I'm a freshman in college and in just one semester, I've
learned a lot more than how to do laundry and academics. I've learned that romantic
love does not exist. I'm not some sort of a chick who walks around wearing black
and worshipping pagan gods, but I'm actually a very sweet person. I believe
that I can love my friends (both girls and guys), my family, and those around
me and live a satisfied and complete life like this. As for Valentine's Day,
I don't know who made it such a commercialized nightmare, but St.Valentine sure
didn't send the ones who he loved $4 Hallmark cards in order to show that he
really cared for them. Unfortunately people have
not figured out certain bombshells like: Love means listening to someone
even when you don't understand them or hugging someone who's welling up with
tears or making someone laugh just because you can. You can love people everday,
not just Valentine's Day, and having a boyfriend or girlfriend is certainly
not a pre-requisite for understanding love. It could actually mean that you
missed the point of love. ______________________________________________________
Personal Love cannot happen unless you have the author of Love, the person of love. God is Love. No human can ever amount to Him and can only do their best. IF you have God in your heart, you have love. There is no better way. Jesus is Love. God sent Jesus, his own son to die for us, to reconcile us to God because we were seperated from him because of our own evil ways. Jesus made a way for us to come to him by dying for
us. That is love, God sacrificing His own son on our behalf, so we can come to him and have the relationship he intended. That is true love. It is sad that people try to make money off of what God is, there is evil everywhere and the only way around it is through Jesus Christ. Make Him your life and you will have Love everlasting! Love rules!
fuck who ever made up that dayyyyyyyyy
Megan
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!! (and don't forget to flush eh?)
Your "excess baggage" really hit home with me. I look at myself, compare what I'm doing with what my engaged/married friends are doing, and I know there's no way in hell I could have accomplished all I have with someone attached to my arm. They marvel at the way I live my life, my positive attitude, my energy, and they wonder why and how I do it. Fact is, it ain't easy. I know why people have relationships and so do you. It makes life easier.
Well fuck that.
I live on my terms, on my time, with my money. Is anyone any happier being married than being single? Probably not, grass is always greener on the other side and people always want what they can't have. Humans are serial monogamous. At a certain time, they bond really well with one other person, but as they grow, learn, and change, the two may take different paths until they are "Not the same person they used to be", and the divorce thing happens. Ideally, the two grow together, but with the fast paced society we live in, that usually isn't the case.
You have the understanding and can see the true nature of the beast. Knowledge is power, don't see the world as a shithole, but see it as your oyster. Don't preach your cause, just live it, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you want time to yourself, and your friends don't understand why, just smile and revel in the fact that you are confident in your resolve. Love is not evil. It is the most powerful force on earth. People would sacrafice their lives for it. Being direct and honest is a great way to think, but alot of people don't seem to understand unless you blow alot of sunshine up their ass. Love is a very intimate thing, and when it's true, being direct becomes more difficult because pleasing that other someone becomes very important, so much so that you're willing to make sacrafices. Of course, eventually enough is enough and you get into a fight... hopefully one where both parties learn something about each other.
All I'm saying is, you seem to live your life like I do... doesn't mean everyone should. The problem isn't the people, its our culture. The media controls the population, and people are easily lead by mass propaganda. You'll never change anyone by trying to drill your cause and beliefs into their heads. Just do things your own way, the smart ones will catch on. You'll save yourself alot of aggravation too.
And that's my worthless two cents. Hopefully it was coherent.
Peace.
-Olsch
Hell yes Love is evil, but worse than that it is detestible! I can tell you all about what love really is!!
Love is having the sweetest most wonderful Girl in the world. Having someone who you can Identify with, who you are compatible with, someone who comes along and you care about them more than anything else in the entire world. You would jump in front of a speeding train for them. Love is wasting six years of your life for them, and because they are the center of your universe everything else begins to move further and further away, Until you barely see your friends anymore, You put things you really want to do on the back burner. You think about things to make them happy, becuase them being happy to you is what brings you joy. In a sense this princess becomes your life, you are no longer capable of doing things on your own, The once proud independant man become a creature whose sole purpose is to fulfil the needs of this continually growing monster. You start to miss things, you start to feel like you are drowning, but the circumstances that this society has placed upon us make you follow this way in which you are now forced to live, or lose this great love that you have. Then even that starts to falter as you crumble under the weight, like Atlas you carry this load, and you are not allowed to stumble, she can smell weakness. Then battered and bleading you are no longer able to cater to the whims of the monster any longer. You get by day by day, You are not giving this creature the attention it desires. The creature lashes out at you, and you desperately try to make things better, burrying yourself deeper,but your already up to your neck, you cant breathe. She tells you that you arent the same anymore, and that you are never happy! She needs someone strong, someone who will take care of her, shes not attracted to you anymore. WHats left of your heart dies, and you can feel it happening. You try to reinvent yourself, but you know its a lie. You go out looking for someone to fill that void, but deep down you know it cant be filled. YOu want someone to replace her, like she did you, when you were barely cold in the ground, but you know even though you hate her that you still love her, you just cant turn those feelings off like water faucets. You try to move on, but deep inside you know your heart is dead. Thats when you know what love is. You know that love is a lie.
Date: Fri, 08 Jan 1999 13:39:17 PST
From: "Rose Hayes"
-Making out with someone is not love.
-Holding hands is not love.
-Getting a boyfriend does not offer you a ticket to the complete and total immersion
in the world of love.
-Red roses do not mean love. Nor do white ones. Or yellow ones for that matter.
-Love at first sight. Nope. That means just what it is: love based on sight.
Nothing more than a pretty face. And there are plenty of them around.
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Date: 8 Feb 99 07:27:05 PST
From: David Cowles
From: "Phillip M."
To:
Subject:
Date: Tue, 9 Feb 1999 15:58:51 -0500
I sent an e-valentine to a friend because i thought it was cool page and
it made me laugh. the friend sent your page back in return. I found a
lot of truths in it, alot of bloody obvious ideas that I hadn't thought
of before in my quest for love.. and the part about falling into the
trap of habits and rituals... was the best exposure of an undercover
conspiracy that I have ever seen. Yet I found parts of your 'thesis'
contradictory in the spirit/purpose of its existence. There is such a
thing as true love.. with out the rituals and expectancies society has
placed on it. Love is not, NOT, a lie... just the human race as a
society, has lost sight of the true meaning. Dont give up... be true
to yourself... and love will find you... hopefully, it will find all of
us.
Spanky21 aka phil
Date: Wed, 10 Feb 1999 00:19:58 -0800
From: teitscheid@########
Subject: nice page for a pessimistic martyr
somebody burned you pretty badly didn't they.....but overall, i found it
mildy entertaining, and slightly disturbing, is this going to be another
Kent State incident? Should we watch for you on top of some college
campus building shooting down sappy lovers on Valentines Day?
May you find peace and happiness......and not firearms.....
From: "Orrantia, Celeste"
Subject: Your Anti V-Day page
Date: Thu, 11 Feb 1999 10:13:31 -0800
I think you're onto something...I've just come off of a terrible ending to a
9 month relationship . I'm almost 100% convinced that there is no such
thing as romantic love. I have never experienced the real thing in my
entire life. If I feel love for someone, I will usually get stomped on by
that person. I can never win.....I think I'll take your advice and stay
concerned only with my family and real friends just "F" someone every now
and then......thanks
From: "Charles White"
Subject: Love
Date: Sat, 13 Feb 1999 22:21:50 -0600
Hi,
It's Valentine's Day Eve and I found your site on the subject. Your feelings I respect. As a person, I give you my respect.
Tonight I sent this message to several people. I'll share it with you.
Love is a many splendored thing, musicians have sung.
Love is blinding, some have said, but love sometimes is the opposite of blinding, too. It can be clarifying.
Love makes lots of sense at times, and at other times it seems not to make losts of sense.
It is feeling, but it is more than feeling.
It is caring in the presence of feeling, and it is caring in the absence of it.
Love we may receive when we are lovable, but in true love, we receive or experience it when we are not very lovable,
indeed at those times we are least lovable.
Love has many stages and forms. It also has many competitors, and it has interference.
Poets and others speak of the amounts of love. With that I cannot quarrel, but it is hard to measure. Love is not a
commodity.
It cannot be packaged by the pound, the ton, or ways like that. At least not by me.
Love is like a child who trusts. It is like an aging person who struggles. It is like a vital person who knows the vitality
is not everything.
Love is like God. God is love.
**********
I think you do good work with computers, and I find hints in your writing that you have hurts, but also still hope to
depend and be depended on.
I write of love, not as one who knows of it in constantly enthralling ways. I know of its pains and struggles. Since I
believe that God is love, I suppose I feel God made me for love, so I try.
My writing is not to crusade or push anything. It is to say I hear and feel some of what you say.
Thanks for your sharing.
c.w.
white@########
Date: Sun, 11 Apr 1999 18:50:11 -0600
From: sireneh
Subject: LOVE IS EVIL
I read your article and felt compelled to respond. I have been "without
partner" for two years and am very happy being single, however, I felt
torn by your opinions. The most important thing that needs to be said
up front is that I am sorry you are such an unhappy human being. It's
unfortunate that the sight of other people loving and enjoying one
another should make you "want to puke". if you were truly content with
yourself, which you so strongly advocate, I'm not sure this would be
so. Your written voice was fairly quivering with rage and I'm afraid
your credibility was compromised by it.
On the other hand, the points you made were relevant and intelligent.
Our society is littered with emotionally needy human beings who are
either unable or unwilling to acknowledge this condition in themselves
and spend a great deal of their time trying to fill an unfillable
emptiness. Have you read Erica Jong's "Fear of Flying"? You may find
it very enlightening, as I did.
Although a significant other cannot heal our pain and make us complete,
when we are in a happy and healthy state of mind then intimate, loving
relationships can enrich our lives substantially. I hope you'll have
the good fortune to experience that feeling (for the first time or
again) and when you do you'll likely find yourself unable to identify
with some of the strong convictions you expressed about Valentine's
Day. Love makes people happy, after all, and nothing in the world
matters more than that.
Regards,
Shannon Harvey
From: "Art & Kristi Gogan"
To: webman311@hotmail.com
Subject: about Love is evil
Date: Wed, 24 Jan 2001 15:23:31 -0800
I am sad to hear the pain and hurt and emptiness inside this website and email responses. The reason why there is a lack of love or a hate for love is because of a false definition of love. Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy,it does not boast,it is not proud,it is not rude,it is not self seeking,it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects,always trusts,always hopes,always perseveres. Love never fails.
From: "damaris a abreu"
To: webman311@hotmail.com
Subject: about Love is evil
Date: Sat, 27 Jan 2001 15:40:44 -0500
valentines day is fucking stupid people waste their fucking money on
bullshit 14 is any fucking day to me it fucking stinks that all i wear is
black fuck red i hate all those people who act all stupid because they
have gotten a fucking love card or some old ass chocolate
From: ""
To: webman311@hotmail.com
Subject: about Love is evil
Date: Sun, 11 Feb 2001 12:44:55 EST
My boyfriend was a "fixer." I thought that I loved him, and I think that I
did. I loved him or who he was. He just wanted someone to take care of him
and someone to fix. I hate this. I agree with your page whole heartedly and
I had come to the same conclusions before I had even heard of your site. I
hope Hallmark makes it's fuckin money this year. Grr.
From: "Nate O'Brien"
To : webman311@hotmail.com
Subject : about how Love is not so evil
Date : Thu, 14 Feb 2002 10:54:41 -0700
Ok granted Hallmark will make some money this year but is it really that high on your list of most hated things? Love love love love love....A bit presumptuous to have all of love's ins and outs figured out all on one web page dont you think? ...jaded because you don't or have never had it or really that concerned about how society just "forces" us to do things? Read up on Human Evolutionary Biology for a different perspective. Maybe it's "evil" society's complex way of forcing us to stimulate the gift card market or maybe...just maybe it's another way human beings materialize their evolved preference towards reproduction as opposed to not giving a shit about what their mate thinks...You think we care about love because of society?? I'd be willing to argue that if we didn't care about love none of us would be here. Instead of being disgusted about it, how about being grateful humans do care...Mom and Dad were probably thinking it when they had you, ever thought of that one?? ...god help me find the 15 dollars a year for some flowers and candy to help me get an extra special night full of great sex...Life is rough isn't it? ...what a world what a world....the horror...
From : "Olsch"
To : webman311@hotmail.com
Subject : about Love is evil
Date : Tue, 19 Mar 2002 10:07:56 -0800
Xiaoxin,
I have just read your website concerning Valentines Day, and I have to say that you appear to have come upon some important knowledge. There are all kinds of people in the world, some that need security, some that need solitude, and most don't even know which. Before I get up on the soapbox, I'd like you to know that I agree with you. Valentine's Day is a cleverly designed money making scheme, it is good you recognize this, but look at the country we live in... most holidays have become a cleverly designed money making scheme. Yes, society is to blame. Yes, peoples' need to be comfortable and wanted and accepted make them easy prey for Hallmark and Kay Jewelers. And yes, people are afraid.
From : "Lordfinx"
To : webman311@hotmail.com
Subject : about Love is evil
Date : Fri, 15 Nov 2002 15:38:55 -0600